This week’s question is: I’m in love with someone that’s no good for me, Help!
I’ve been there and some day’s I’m still there but hopefully my experience and lessons learned will help you out, and you won’t end up with a Mr. X of your own.
People, correction, stupid people will tell you to follow your heart. That’s bullshit, why do we have brains if we’re always meant to follow our hearts? That just makes no sense at all.
My advice is to think logically about the situation. You’ve already said he’s no good for you and it’s a proven fact men don’t change. So what you have now is what you’re going to end up with. Always remember that.
This is one of the few times in life it’s good to hold on to all the negative energy. Think about all the times he’s hurt you, made you feel small and not important, think about all the tears and sleepless nights he’s caused. Get mad about the way he treated you. Then ask yourself, do you really want someone that could do that to you in your life?
You have to be strong enough in yourself to make the right decision. You may always love this person. I know Mr. X will always have a place in my heart but I love myself too much to go there. Think of your heart as peer pressure, you may want to but “just say no”.
Saying all that, don’t feel bad if you find yourself occasionally flirting with the guy. You’re not a nun; it’s ok to have fun, as long has you keep your wits about you. Hell just because a relationship is off the cards doesn’t mean a few orgasms have to be. Just be smart about what you do and know it can’t be anything more than just physical.
At the end of the day you have to do what’s right for you even if your heart disagrees because fairly tales aren’t real, he’ll never change and you won’t live happily ever after. All you’ll end up with is a nasty toad and bunch of warts.
Hang in there,
The Honest Bitch
Thursday 11 August 2011
Possible Cheating Boyfriend
Question: I think my partner is cheating on me how can I find out for sure?
Most people will tell you if you don’t trust your partner the relationship is already over….I’m not most people.
Yes, trust is important but it’s a fact of life most people aren’t trustworthy and I think it’s smart practise to make sure you’re not being made a fool of. In my personal experience if you suspect something is going on you’re normally right.
My advice would be to get a hold of their phone. Most people’s phones contain their whole life, and if anyone would know if your partner is cheating it’s that little piece of technology.
How you go about getting their phone is up to you. I wouldn’t recommend going behind their back to get it because if you’re wrong you’ll look like an idiot…. oh and it’s not ethical or some bullshit like that.
How I would go about doing it is, pick their phone up and play with it and with a little tact go to the places on the phone I want to check out (text messages, calls, emails, contracts). I also might try to cuddle up to my boyfriend when he receives a message on his phone and try to read it that way, if he has something to hide you’ll know straight away because he’ll turn his phone so you can’t see it.
It’s not a fool proof way of finding out but it’s a pretty damn good indicator and it saves on having that horrible “are other girls licking your balls?” conversation.
Play Safe,
The Honest Bitch
Most people will tell you if you don’t trust your partner the relationship is already over….I’m not most people.
Yes, trust is important but it’s a fact of life most people aren’t trustworthy and I think it’s smart practise to make sure you’re not being made a fool of. In my personal experience if you suspect something is going on you’re normally right.
My advice would be to get a hold of their phone. Most people’s phones contain their whole life, and if anyone would know if your partner is cheating it’s that little piece of technology.
How you go about getting their phone is up to you. I wouldn’t recommend going behind their back to get it because if you’re wrong you’ll look like an idiot…. oh and it’s not ethical or some bullshit like that.
How I would go about doing it is, pick their phone up and play with it and with a little tact go to the places on the phone I want to check out (text messages, calls, emails, contracts). I also might try to cuddle up to my boyfriend when he receives a message on his phone and try to read it that way, if he has something to hide you’ll know straight away because he’ll turn his phone so you can’t see it.
It’s not a fool proof way of finding out but it’s a pretty damn good indicator and it saves on having that horrible “are other girls licking your balls?” conversation.
Play Safe,
The Honest Bitch
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